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Relocating has never been easy for most people. Everything in our life is shaped like brick and mortar to a home. This is what made us who we are and a home provided us with something more than just shelter. It provided us a template for living with our family.
Studies reveal that people are living on their homes longer with the media beating up on young adults who have failed to leave. It’s a rite of passage that has been done again and again throughout human history in different ways based on culture and current society.
There has always been the question of self-reliance and independence given to one’s self and this world can give us different scenarios that pull us to different directions which sometimes only present themselves at that certain moment in life. With this, can we really blame a person who chooses to stay and hide at home as long as they possibly can?
As humans it’s undeniably our nature to avoid change though change is also inevitable. You would be anxious and sometimes depressed when faced with the reality of leaving home. Even though the environment isn’t really that great it’s something we have come to embrace and ‘independence’ is something that will eventually come naturally – if we waited long enough – or went through it step by step.
That feeling is common says psychologist Sabina Read and nothing to be ashamed of. It is explained that that adulthood is starting almost a decade later.. in the late 20’s rather than late teens. This would be attributed to cost of living pressures a hysterical media and overwhelming exposure to choices which lead to paralysis.
Sabina continued on saying that “Embracing normal doesn’t mean wallowing in it.”
“We should move at our own pace, but we need to move to survive.”
It is recommended that we should “watch-out” for these three behaviours that we use to maintain anxiety and worry: avoidance, distraction and seeking external device.
These three habits prevent us from taking that step forward. If you find yourself doing any of them, stop and try to change it. Sabina’s advice “If we always have a plan B we’ll struggle to become resilient and self-sufficient.”